|Clarification of foster care offered|
|Written by Holyoke Enterprise|
I wanted to add a few thoughts to Darci Tomky’s excellent article about foster care. Rereading it, I see that the information I gave in the interview is pretty dark. Why on earth would anyone do foster care after reading that? Well, I’ll tell you.
I did not exaggerate the things that happened to us while doing foster care. But these things occurred over a period of 10 years. And while all foster children are traumatized and will see that trauma reflected in their lives, not all have destructive or violent behaviors.
My daughter Michelle said that she wished people saw foster children as just kids in a bad situation. And she’s right; they are in a bad situation. Most children in foster care are there because the adults in their lives made bad choices. And most of them are really good kids who just need to get it figured out.
They need someone and some place stable, safe and normal. And that is why I mentioned the negatives in doing foster care because when an agency is eager to get resources, they may not talk much about those points. And someone going into foster care with blinders on will not stay in foster care.
The kids will be disrupted again, and each disruption inflicts more trauma. So if you are part of that small group of people who love kids and are willing, in spite of the downside, to provide that stable, loving and safe place for kids in a bad situation, talk to someone in child services. You’ll make a difference to the kids, and the rewards you get for fostering last forever.